Fakin’ the Funk: My winter blues…

“How like a winter hath my absence been
From thee, the pleasure of the fleeting year!
What freezings have I felt, what dark days seen!
What old December’s bareness every where! ”

— Sonnet 97 (Shakespeare)

I didn’t want to succomb to it. Succomb to the blah feeling, the feeling of zero energy, the feeling of wanting to stay in my pyjamas and pretend that I’m the star of that Twilight Zone episode where I’m, mysteriously, the only person left on this plane(t)…as well as Netflix…:-) I honestly DID NOT. I wanted to embrace this winter season in all of its fluffy white snow, beautiful snow-filled landscapes, imbibe the chilly, crisp air into my lungs….and look stylish all the while doing it. That was my honest-to-goodness plan. Well, it’s already February…and my zealousness has definitely waned….and I’m being very generous with that statement.

My stylish factor, though, has remained high through this loooooong winter, because I believe in that tried but true statement: FAKE IT TILL YOU MAKE IT. For me, I find that if my mood isn’t as fabulous as what I look like, looking fab gives my mood a chance to catch up.

Outside of checking my favorite online stores for the new Spring/Summer/Cruise collections that are flooding my inbox, and yes, getting doorbell rings with packages that contain lovely boxes tied with ribbon that contain clothes and maybe shoes from the aforementioned collections, I realize the most important thing: Life is literally a sine wave. It dips….it fluctuactes…it regenerates….it resurrects…it revives…it recharges. Everything is always in motion. Everything. And in that…we can all take comfort in knowing that said funk will be gone!

Bern, Switzerland (PC: my bestie…S.S.)

I’m a tad bit late…but HAPPY “NEW YEAR!” (Snapchat filter)

Thank you for stopping by…..:-)

Sequins here, sequins there, sequins everywhere!

“All the world’s a stage,
And all the men and women merely players;
They have their exits and their entrances....”

— As You Like it, Act II, iv

Tis the season to be shiny!! To be fair, any season is shiny season for me. I happen to agree that all the world is my stage (and yours too), and I am the protagonist of my story. J. Cole also paraphrased this same sentiment…”This is my canvas….Ima paint it how I want it..”

This fabulous skirt is from Vivetta. I paired it with a Karl Lagerfeld T-shirt which dresses “down” the dressiness of the skirt. This type of juxtaposition is something I love to play with. My Gucci fanny pack (whoever thought you’d live to see the fanny pack make a comeback!) ties everything together.

Don’t be shocked if you ever run into me at the local grocery store dressed in this shiny sequin skirt and some fab gym shoes…because I never “save my best” for a special day. To me, everyday is a special day…and I dress accordingly!

GO AHEAD AND PIN ME! :-)

Thank you for stopping by! Let me know how you shine! XOXO

Get you some leopard print, bruh!

Are you elusive and secretive at times? Difficult to trace and locate in the wild? I know I have these qualities at times…and most likely am not alone…;-) Apart from myself, these are characteristics of one of our favorite big cats- the leopard!

Headband: House of Lafayette

Jean Jacket: Blank NYC

Pants: H&M

Bee Ring: Gucci

There’s no escaping it. You’ve undoubtedly seen this trend in the last five minutes scrolling down your favorite social media platform. LEOPARD PRINT!! This style has resurrected itself to mind blowing proportions this season. I mean, face it….it never really went anywhere. You’d see sightings of it….jauntily striding through the mall, or perched on a bench in the park, or at the nearest watering hole at the office. But this season, you see it striding proudly wherever your eyes land.

If you’re not bold enough to be dapper and don that leopard coat….smart small. This headband is the perfect accessory to segue into this trend.

Socks: Gucci

Shoes: Gucci

Like in the photo above, I like to wear mine with items of clothing that traditionally don’t match. These pants from H&M are a perfect example. The red stripe contrasts perfectly with the headband…so much so that the leopard print is actually behaving like a neutral.

The bottom line is, don’t feel like it’s impossible for you to get in on this classic style. There are tons of options out there, from earrings, to shoes, heck…even nail designs. Let me know how you rock your leopard print in the comments below! Maybe we’ll even run into each other in the concrete jungle! ;-)

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EXTRA AF!

Extra AF….you know what I mean, don’t try  and front like you don’t:  Hot sauce on your popcorn, taking 53 selfies to get the perfect IG pic, you have a dog named Ozymandius……ish like this…(smile).  I have to admit,  I’m guilty of a couple of these myself..lol.

Leather biker jacket: Oak (similar version)

Tulle Skirt: Space 46 (similar version)

Socks: Gucci (similar version)

Shoes: Louis Vuitton

Purse: Gucci

That is what this blog is about.  The juxtaposition of  two styles to give you an edgy, yet elegant look. But before getting into the details about my outfit, let’s take a look at that quote.
Polonius is really giving his son some grand advice, here. I can mostly agree. I mean, think about it….your style is an expression of you…and it’s the first thing people see before you open your mouth. And quality is always a good thing. (And only spending as much as you afford is even better!) We all know it’s better to spend a bit more on those investment pieces that will last for years, rather than spending money every season on a cheaper version of the same item because that cheaper item is in tatters. However, I do disagree with Polonius on one point…. a bit of flash every now and again never hurt anybody!

Take this outfit here. It’s the perfect combo: leather, tulle, and combat boots. Just imagine walking into work on Casual Friday with this number on. Or going to your local grocery store to pick up some broccoli to steam when you get home. Now, I know what you’re thinking! This outfit isn’t for the faint of heart. However, I like to think of life as my personal catwalk. And besides, it doesn’t matter what anyone else thinks! if you want to feel and look like a bad ass princess, then do it. You won’t regret it….I never do!

Photo credit: JG

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Ode to my Nails!

The following ode was written by YOURS TRULY.  It is written in the Horation style for those poetry lovers out there! ;-)  

Nails done by the awesome Ekaterina Goette!

ODE TO MY NAILS

My nail broke, and one is lifting, oh damn!

It's an emergency, I cannot wait.

Off I go, got some designs from the Gram.

Swarovskis, oh yes! And I have my date.

They are so colorful and whimsical,

Little works of art on each single nail.

But being happy looking at each one

Is why I love them…..to me.....beautiful.

My nail tech?  Dope as hell!

(Peep my iambic pentameter, son.)

I absolutely LOVE getting my nails done!  To me, they are simply another kind of accessory.  My nail art is definitely a bit extra, but that's just me.   Every time I get them done, the designs are totally different, however, there is a strict pattern I adhere to. Believe it or not, there is a method to my madness! LOL! (Maybe I'll write another blog post on that!)  

The point of this blog post is just to say, don't overlook the importance of your nails and how they can really pull your look and style together, and give you that polished look you're after, no matter what your style is.  It makes no difference if your nails are long, short, full of designs or plain, don't neglect them….show them some love, too!

Thank you for stopping by! XOXO

3 ways to add swag to every outfit!

Ahhhh...this particular quote is from one of my favorite plays by Shakespeare.  Although it is referencing a shoe repair tool, which can be handy, this post is actually going to be mentioning the shoe.  As the title suggests, I want to give you 3 ways to add swag to any and every outfit.  So, let's take a look at the first way.

1.  SHOES-  Now, I'm sure you've all heard this millions of times before, but it is sooooo true.  I cannot tell you how many times I've seen an outfit be let down by a "not so well planned out" shoe choice.  Shoes can make or break an outfit.  You can have on a plain outfit, nothing spectacular going on, throw on some really fab shoes, and boom....you have just elevated your look.  Let me also point out, that you needn't spend a ton of money either.  There are stylish shoes at every price point, just beware that if quality is something you are concerned with, then it is wise to invest in a nice pair that will last a while.  Also, if your feet are not in the best shape, you can invest in quality orthopedic shoes that aren't black with those horrendously weird thick soles.  Don't act like you don't know what I mean....I'm trying to be nice here…;-)  Also, the sneaker trend is still very hot, and you can throw on a pair with a very luxe outfit and be fab!

2.  PURSE-  The second way to elevate your look is having an eye-catching bag.  The bag I have in this post is something I've been carrying all summer…(which you've probably noticed already)  I LOVE IT.  (Check my previous post for a link that has a similar bag.)  This inexpensive bag can elevate a very plain look in nano seconds.  Like the shoes, you can also  invest in a quality, expensive bag that will last you for years.  In fact, if you invest in high quality shoes and bags, you can pair them with mid-level quality outfits and the entire outfit will look stunning, having been elevated by what's on your feet and what's in your hand.

3.  CONFIDENCE- This third way isn't anything to wear per se. It's intangible.  However, it can undoubtedly be seen whenever you appear on the scene.  When you have the confidence to live your life without any limitations, when you can metaphorically walk in your own shoes on your own path through this life, then you're already livin' your best life.  Here's a short story:  In my mid-twenties, I was an English teacher at the same high school where my mother worked.  Just like now, I was very much into fashion. The dress code for teachers is very lenient at a high school. You can pretty much wear what you want...within reason of course. Well, it was a Friday, and I had worn jeans and a really cute green velvet shirt (this was the mid-nineties), and some fabulous shoes I had gotten from Steve Madden.  I loved those shoes!  (Do they still have Steve Madden stores in the malls in the US?) To make a long story short, when my mom saw me at work (I already had my own place at that time) she made a HIGHLY insulting comment about the way I was dressed.  I guess she felt it wasn't professional enough.  She had an idea of what SHE wanted me to look like. And, that's my main point.  Someone else's opinion or perception of you has ZERO to do with you. I don't care if it's a friend or family member.  There's an expression that says something like "Walk a mile in my shoes, before you judge me".  How about just "walking in your own shoes" and not giving a hoot about who's judging you or not.

SHOES:  Christian Louboutin

JEANS:  Rag and Bone

PURSE:  Etsy

JEWELRY:  GUCCI

PHOTO CREDIT: Yours truly

GO AHEAD........PIN ME!

Thank you so much for stopping by! Never stop loving yourself! XOXO

Turbans/Headbands...Get into it!

This hilarious, yet oh so true statement was said by Antipholos of Syracuse is the aforementioned, yet doesn't get enough action,  Shakespearean play.  And I'd like to think that it doesn't apply to me either…...LOL.   However, I must admit there are PLENTY of days where I wish that I could get up and go, and not worry about a hairstyle.   Doing this would save me plenty of time, but unfortunately looking like I got electrocuted is not the style I'm currently shooting for.  

The turban/headband trend that has been around for a while, but I'd say heavily for about a year and a half, and it has really spoken to my soul.  I mean, if you want to put minimal effort into styling your hair,  you can add either a turban or headband to your look, and your stylish factor instantly goes through the roof! I mean this is using your wit in the astuteness or perception of judgment sense of the word. You think I'm joking, right?  Take a close look at my pics.  I'm not wearing anything special.  Just some Rag and Bone jeans, a white shoulder free top from Asos, raffia sandals from Asos, and a fabulous straw bag from Etsy,  a fabulous palm cuff from Gucci , and the crowning glory…...DA DADA DAAAAA...….A beautiful green headband from Cult Gaia.  These headbands on their website sell out pretty quickly, and for good reason. They can totally take a bland outfit and turn it and you into a head turner. If you think you can't pull this look off, think again.  They come in many styles and price points. Also, a big plus for me, is that they camouflage my five head and make it appear like I have a (four) head.....LOL.  So, grab one that you are comfortable with, pair it with a simple outfit, and behold the transformation. 

I met up with a friend of mine, and she asked me if this was my new "thing".  I was wearing one of these headbands that I own when she saw me that time, and I also had one on the previous time before that. So, I guess it is my "thing".  I must admit that I own quite a few of them, from Gucci to H&M, and they all look fabulous. 

Photo credit: JG

So, although Antipholos was talking about a lack of hair...we can use our wit and not have a lack of a hairstyle….lol!  Thanks for stopping by! XO

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My over 45 basic skincare routine...

Rosalind definitely knew what the heck she was talking about, didn't she? ;-)  I wanted to dedicate this blog to highlight my basic skincare routine for all women, but especially women over the age of 45, like myself.  My skincare routine isn't complicated at all. I take off my makeup using makeup removal wipes, or I wash my face with a very mild soap, then I do this routine. There are seven products that I use everyday.  Two of these products I mainly use before bedtime. Keep in mind these brands are interchangeable, this just happens to be what I'm using at the time this blog was written.

1.  Clarasonic Mia- (I actually need a new brush head..but lowkey, it still works great!) I'm sure you know all about this handy tool, so there is really no need for an explanation.  This has been a savior for my skin.  It really gets down deep and unclogs your pores and removes dirt and any excess makeup left behind.  My skin loves this. I only use this in the mornings.  I know there are tons of other sonic brushes out there but for me, if it ain't broke……

1.  Neutrogena Visibly Clear Daily wash gel-  This one is also labeled number 1 because I put a cleanser on my Clarasonic.  This gel works really well.  I like the Neutrogena line, however I don't go out of my way to get it.  It works well as a cleasnser, but it's nothing special.  Secret:  I don't like this grapefruit smell, though.  I prefer the blue version.

2.  Pixi Glow Tonic To-Go pads -  This are great!  I love this line.  After cleansing, you should always tone your face.  These pads are handy and easy to us.  They also have it in a bottle to, without pads, of course.  (The link goes to the one in the bottle which I also have and love!)

3.  Biotherm Aquasource gel-  LOVE THIS! I use this as a moisturizer in the mornings as evenings.  The gel consistency is what I love.  It's so lightweight!  If you don't like greasy moisturizers, try this.

4.  L'Oreal Face Oil-  My skin loves facial oils period.  You may think it sounds greasy, but trust me, they're not.  I always try different brands.  Right now, this is the one I'm using.  It is doing a great job at keeping my skin hydrated.  If you haven't tried facial oils yet, think about getting a bottle.

5.  Estee Lauder Advanced Night Repair Eye-  You have to have an eye cream.  Do not leave this step out!  This is a sample size product, and I would definitely purchase the full size.  It is the night version, but honestly, that's a marketing ploy.  You can use it in the daytime as well.  Nothing will happen...lol.  

6.  Medik8 Retinol 6 TR Advanced Night Serum-  If you aren't used to retinols, do your research before trying.  I mainly use this for breakouts.  Whenever I see a zit, I dab a bit of this on it, and it's gone overnight!  If I have a bigger, more stubborn one, it will dry up in about 2-3 days.  Its really the only thing that works for those unwanted pimples that pop up every now and then.  And I only use this at night, as needed.  It's not an every evening kind of thing. Also, I really only use this brand of retinol, because it just works for me. (The amazon link is not the exact one I mentioned.  It's less in strength.)

There you have it.  This is my everyday basic skin care routine for women 45 and older.  I hope this helps.  Let me know what kinds of products you can't live without, and if you want to check out As You Like It, I highly recommend that for a great read, as well!Thanks for stopping by!

Love,

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Solo travelling in Mykonos!

“Boldness, be my friend!””

— Cymbeline Act I, scene vi

LOCATION:  Mykonos, Greece

DRESS:  Caroline Constas

HEAD SCARF:  Claire's 

While I was on a yacht sailing to the island of Delos, I had the thought of writing this blog about solo travelling, which I often do.  As women, we still get that tired old response of "WHY?!"  Why travel alone.  As if that even requires a response.  That led me to thinking about Shakespeare's play Cymbeline, for some reason. I mean, the shit Imogen had to go through in that play was crazy.  From Iachimo's ridiculous generalizations that all women are sluts, to Posthumus' decision to murder his wife he "loves" (Imogen) because he thinks she slept with another man, to Imogen literally having to change her identity to a man because it's the only way for these men to see her for who she truly is.  (I mean, come on, P should be grateful that Imogen married him anyway, and look what he turned around and did!)  Actually, these are really common Shakespearean themes…… filled with egotistical thoughts about women.  Unfortunately, nothing new under this post-dynastic sun….but it's still crazy.  Women are still doing/saying/explaining things to justify who we are, who we want to be, look, act ,etc.  When in truth, there is no justification ever needed.

MYKONOS.  Beautiful island.  I went there alone, and had a great time.  I'm not a huge party animal, so don't believe all the hype that Mykonos is just for people who want to party till they drop.

Solo travelling is something I'd recommend everyone do.  First off, if you're inclined to do something, then do it.  You don't have to convince anyone that what you're doing is the right thing.  If it's right for you, then it's right.

People think there are these invisible rules you have to live your life by.  They believe you have to do things in a certain way just because.  If there were rules on how to live YOUR life (because everyone is unique), you would have come out of your mother's uterus holding a  life manual.  The fact that you didn't should tell you a lot.  You don't owe anybody an explanation for doing what is right for you.  Someone's opinion, good or bad, does not reflect on you in any way.

This Carolina Constas off the shoulder dress was a perfect choice for the hot, Mediterrean weather of Mykonos.  The long, billowy sleeves matched the waves of the Aegean sea, all the while protecting my arms from the unrelenting heat of the sun.  The length was great for the yacht as well, still keeping me cool. 

PHOTO CREDIT:

1st pic: Captain of yacht

rest of the pics: ME

Whether it's travelling alone, or expressing your style the way you want, just be you.  You don't have to explain anything.  

Don't forget to BE BOLD! Thanks for stopping by! Love ya!

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Do you have a statement skirt?

There are two reasons why I chose this quote. One of the reasons I chose this particular quote is an obvious one:  MY SKIRT.  Let's face it, this skirt, by Caroline Constas, is the pièce de résistance of my outfit.  This picture was taken on my 46th birthday, and it definitely received plenty of attention from many a passers by.  With its stripes and color, it is reminiscent of a bee. Interesting note:  One of the manifestations of the Mother Goddess, the most ancient deity in archeological records, is the bee where it lives in the hive with their queen.  The second reason I chose the above quote.

I paired this regal skirt with a Red Valentino denim shirt.  It lent a casual feel for an afternoon in the city.  On my head I wore a raffia headband, that resembles a crown..:-)  On my feet are some Gucci wedges with gold ribbon from their summer 2016 collection.  This fabulous circular straw bag is from Etsy…..love it!

Location: Zürich, Switzerland

Photo credit: BT

BEE sure and BEE the queen (because we for sure aren't shrews, and I don't believe Katherine was either) that you are at all times.   And don't forget to add a touch of regalia to your outfits, either! ;-) Thanks for stopping by!  Love ya!

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Wearing metallics...

The scene of this picture isn't Belmont, but I do happen to be in Italy, which I think is apropos. And in this skirt, it's possible to channel your inner Portia and have suitors battling it out just to spend some time with you! However, in this case, choosing the nice, shiny object is a win all around.   This skirt always gives me LIFE.  This pleated, golden skirt is one of those pieces that will be in your wardrobe until you're really ready for a tomb.  (Okay, I'll try and stop being morbid, but S. started it.)   It's a classic.  The way it catches the light will mesmerize little sweet babies as well as those old perverted men...so consider yourself warned! I often pair really dressy pieces, like this skirt, with gym shoes, and a t-shirt to give it a more casual feel. It makes me feel like I'm not overdressed for the grocery store, yet it appeals to the "extraness" that has always been a part of my aesthetic.  It's also a great way to introduce a bit of metallic into your own wardrobe. Don't ever feel like you have to dim your shine for anyone or any reason.  Shine on...and shine brightly!

Location:  Densenzano, Italy

Photo credit: BT

Headband:  Cult Gaia (click link for similar one)

Sunglasses: (old purchase from The Outnet)

Shirt:  Balenciaga (Spring/Summer 2018)

Skirt:  Gucci (approx. 3 seasons ago)

Purse:  Gucci

Shoes:  Gucci (click link)

Photo credit: BT

Photo credit: BT

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